Part of the reason I have been getting increasingly stressed about the wedding does not have anything to do with things that Mr. Canary and I have not prepared for or planned... but mostly things my guests have not done. Perhaps it is because we are the first among our friends to get married or perhaps people don't realize that planning this wedding has taken up about 90% of our time in the past few weeks... but we are still met with so many questions that have been driving both Mr. Canary and me insane.
Among the many annoying things have been travel plans. We realize and greatly appreciate that so many of our guests are going great distances (literally and figuratively) to attend our wedding, so we posted a lot of travel information on our wedding Web site six months ago. We are merely three weeks away from the big day and I am still getting emails this week which included questions like this, "So where should we book our hotel? Do you have any suggestions? Can you book the hotel for us?" I really wanted to scream. We provided you all this information. We even printed a save-the-date six months ago so you could prepare for this.
Some of our close friends and family guests are coming in early to help with any last minute planning, so of course, we graciously offered to pick up from the airport because a) they were flying early and b) made their plans way in advance so we had enough notice. Again, this week alone, I have received three requests for airport pickups, including one for the afternoon before the rehearsal dinner. After hearing about that request, Mr. Canary had to fan away the steam shooting out of my ears.
Late RSVPers. Most of our guests have responded and most actually responded right before the due date. But it's not necessarily the late folks who drive me insane, it's the ones who can not decide if they are bringing a guest or not and want to tell you later. WHAT?
All these incidents reminded me about an article I had read in Domino Magazine about how to be a good guest, and I felt like I wanted to remind my guests about how to be a good wedding guests. Don't get me wrong, I am so honored and happy that all these folks will be visiting New York and attending my wedding. I am just so flustered and at a loss for words when faced with questions about things I thought we had already answered. If I had a mini "how to be a good wedding guest" list... these would be the top three items:
1. Read all the information that's provided in the save-the-date and invitation, which is where you'll find pointers on accommodations, directions, attire/dress code and all the dates and times for events
2. If you can't find answers to your questions, try asking members of the wedding party before approaching the bride and groom.
3. If you still can't figure out and have to contact the bride and groom, for special "requests" make sure that it's not something you could research or do on your own first.
I have tried my best to be a good and patient hostess, but at what point do you put your foot down and get people to help themselves? And what are some suggestions you may have for being a good wedding guest?
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